How to manage emotions in such a way that the person feels OK and helps others to feel OK.

1. Managing Emotions
Marcelo Bulk

2. Definition
 Literally, it means moving from inside out.
 It is a human characteristic used to deal with external
situations by choosing between many possible
reactions.
 Learnt from family and other sources, a healthy
emotional stage can help the individual to experience
the best of everything and to deal with bad
circumstances in a more mature way.
 But, when an individual faces a point of experiencing
unhealthy emotions, it is possible that even the best
situation becomes the worse experience in his life.

3. Influence
Emotions are reactions to anything that
happens, so they are present at every
step.
Effort, success, influence, recovery and
changing, are all affected by the
reactions we have towards what
happens around. In other words, by
emotions.

4. Importance
A healthy emotional
state:
 Success or contentment
in career.
 Keeping friends and
using time in a worthwhile
way.
 Dealing with stressful
situations.
 A healthy mind and body.
 Staying in self-esteem.
An unhealthy emotional
state:
 Failure in career or
marriage.
 Losing friends, time or
reputation.
 Increasing stress levels.
 Affecting mental and
body health quality.
 Decreasing self-esteem
levels.
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5. Repression
 It means to prevent the expression of an
emotion by will power or social
constraints.
 It works like a pressure cooker: if you
don’t do something about that soon, it can
explode!
 Talk to someone you know. Just
remember that you can’t repress what you
feel forever.

6. Transference
 It is when you identify a certain wrong
emotion and you replace it with another one,
or some other action.
 For instance, you know you can’t shout
against your boss, so you start to make ironic
comments about him to other people.
 It is important to acknowledge the emotion
you feel and look for advise from an expert
on how to deal with it in a healthy way.

7. EI
 Emotional Inteligence is the capacity to
understand, perceive and use the emotions
felt by the individual and other people.
 A sales manager is aware that his team lacks
motivation, so he creates a program to
increase sales by generating enthusiasm for
new products.
 EI cannot be used as a tool to manipulate
other people, but it is useful to help finding
solutions.

8. *Self-Control*
 It is the stage where you can manage an
emotion before it comes into action. It
requires a deep knowledge of the self and an
efficient tool for access.
 After sometime working on the self, a
manager is able to face a crisis in her
company by being calm and focused.
 Even though it is something apparently more
difficult, it allows the person to manage
emotions in a total different level.

9. Process
PersonalitPersonalit
y tracesy traces
ThoughtsThoughts
DecisionDecision
makingmaking
Situation
A trace of
personality
emerges,
triggered by a
situation
Emotions come as
a reaction to the
situation,
generating
thoughts
Those emotions
turn into an action
(reaction), which
needs approval by
the intellect to
come into reality
By chosing an
action, it feeds the
personality
REPRESSION
TRANSFERENCE
EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENCE
SELF-CONTROL

10. *F&C*
 Focus
 Mind works better if it is focused, that is, the thoughts and
emotions that emerge have a clear meaning for the self and
a clear purpose.
 Control
 The real control is on the intellect, so that the best decision
is made.
 Meditation
 Meditation technique enables the mind to be focused in a
very easy way.
 Raja yoga meditation provides an interesting and effective
method to control the intellect.

11. **Self-Leadership**
 After controlling the self, the individual
becomes his or her own leader. Emotions
cease to exist as reactions and the leader
allows his feelings to be expressed.
 A mother instead of reacting towards the
insult spoken by her daughter-in-law, decides
to give her love and compassion.
 Only by being a leader of the self, emotions
will not created damage.

12. **Process**
PersonalitPersonalit
y tracesy traces
ThoughtsThoughts
DecisionDecision
makingmaking
Situation
A trace of
personality
emerges,
triggered by a
situation
Emotions come as
a reaction to the
situation,
generating
thoughts
Those emotions
turn into an action
(reaction), which
needs approval by
the intellect to
come into reality
By chosing an
action, it feeds the
personality
REPRESSION
TRANSFERENCE
EMOTIONAL
INTELLIGENCE
SELF-CONTROL
As a leader of the self, I am the master
of my intellect.
I am able to always find a good quality
– a value, virtue or power – as a way to
act in the world.
I don’t react; I am the one who provides
spiritual, mental and physical solutions.
As a leader of the self, I am the master
of my intellect.
I am able to always find a good quality
– a value, virtue or power – as a way to
act in the world.
I don’t react; I am the one who provides
spiritual, mental and physical solutions.

13. Conclusions
 Managing emotions are an important factor in
organisations.
 There are many ways to do it.
 Raja yoga meditation can help to achieve
both, self-control and mastery over the self.
 Brahma Kumaris is available to help with
that.
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 marcelo.bulk@co.bkwsu.org