1.Mature Character
2.Loving Relationships & Family
3.Contribution to Society
1.Time of maturing of character for marriage and parenthood.
2.Springtime of life for youth.
Youth Idealistic, sensitive, romantic and passionate.
Need guidance and protection
“ Most people see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of one’s capacity to love.”
Source: Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Romance by itself Insufficient foundation for the enduring love needed to sustain marriages and families
1.Includes sexual attraction
Rooted in instinctual and unconscious forces
2.Transient stage
3.Lasting intimacy, freedom and joy takes time and investment
El bienestar individual y colectivo proviene de experimentar una vida que sirve y beneficia a la totalidad, una vida altruista.
Necesitamos restaurar completamente nuestra sensibilidad espiritual, de forma que jamás pudiéramos con nuestra conducta, dañar o perjudicar a otros, ya que sentiríamos la pena y el dolor de los demás como el nuestro propio. Del mismo modo, nuestra felicidad también se logrará haciendo a otros felices.
1.Involvement & Investment
2.Bonding power
3.Develop affection
4.Revive a relationship
Caution and wisdom needed because of the bonding power of love
1.Loving has purpose and direction
Grounded in heart & conscience
Purpose determines depth of love
2.Love is grounded in ethical standards beyond the personal relationship
1.Mature character Discernment and self-control
2.Constant caring investment
Communication
Mutual support and service
Shared interests and activities
Forgiveness and making amends
3.Shared ethical values
Beyond mutual gratification
Connected to community
1.Looking for love
2.Seeking acceptance
From partner
From peers
3.Proving one’s manhood or womanhood
1.Physical experience alone does not satisfy the emotional need
2.Love blossoms only in the context of long-term commitment
1.Physical experience alone does not satisfy the emotional need
2.Love blossoms only in the context of long-term commitment
1.Physical experience alone does not satisfy the emotional need
2.Love blossoms only in the context of long-term commitment
1.Does not prove adulthood
2.Does not prove manhood or womanhood
1.Psychological damage and problems for future marriage can afflict either men or women
Even if disease and pregnancy are prevented
Can have lifelong impact
1.Regret
2.Heartbreak
3.Guilt and shame
4.Stunted personal growth
5.Loss of self-respect
6.Fear of commitment
Source: Thomas Lickona,“The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
7.Anxiety over possible pregnancy and disease
8.Rage over betrayal
9.Corruption ofcharacter
10.Depression and suicide
Source: Thomas Lickona, “The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
1.Stimulates selfishness
2. Creates possessiveness
3. Inhibits communication
1.As preparation for possible marriage
2.To select a better marriage partner
1.Regret
2.Heartbreak
3.Guilt and shame
4.Stunted personal growth
5.Loss of self-respect
6.Fear of commitment
Source: Thomas Lickona,“The Neglected Heart,” American Educator, 1994
1.Stimulates selfishness
2. Creates possessiveness
3. Inhibits communication
1.Stimulates selfishness
2. Creates possessiveness
3. Inhibits communication
1.Comparison to past partners
2.Tendency towards infidelity
3.Transmission of STDs
4.Greater likelihood of divorce
“Sex is most joyful and fulfilling - most emotionally safe as well as physically safe - when it occurs within a loving, total and binding commitment...[as in] marriage... the union of two person’s lives.”
Source: Thomas Lickona, American Educator, Educating for Character
Teenage children are unable to connect sex with love
Jean Piaget
Adolescents are unable to think in terms of the future Lawrence Kohlberg
Having sex before the heart is developed leads to problems with intimacy later
Victor Frankl
Temptation of Sexual Love
1.Greatest gift to show sincerity
2.Freedom to learn the art of loving together
3.Freedom from comparisons to past lovers
4.Less chance of divorce
5.Training for fidelity
Temptation of Sexual Love
1.Caring
2.Honesty
3.Trust
4.Fidelity
5.Commitment
6.Sense of sacrifice
7.Sexual satisfaction
Source of pride, joy, and emotional security
1.Opportunity to regain a sense of self-worth
2.Best option for those disillusioned with premarital sex
Therefore I commit myself
1.To strive for maturity of heart and character
2.To learn how to practice true love as a child, friend, spouse and parent
3. To refrain from all sexual relationships before marriage
4. To dedicate myself to fidelity within marriage
The pure relationship of love between a man and a woman is a sacred trust to be cherished and honored, for the sake of building a true family, a healthy nation, and a world of peace.
Once that love is consummated, it should never be broken.
“ If you loved me you would let me”
“ I know you really want to”
“ Everybody is doing it”
“ If you loved me, you would not push me”
“ Yes - with my future spouse”
“ Not me”
Moral conviction is most important
Large numbers are making the commitment to save sex until marriage
Love and honor one’s parents
Cultivation of loyalty
Springboard to all forms of love
Cultivates empathy
Fosters sense of self worth
Sharpens relational and parenting skills
Broadens base of friendship