4. Las cuatro esferas del amor
Amor de padre y madre
Amor conyugal
Proceso de
maduración
Amor entre hermanos y hermanas familiar y social
Amor de hijos e hijas
LA FAMILIA Y EL AMOR En la familia cada uno crece, aprende y experimenta los ilimitados reinos del amor: primero, el amor filial hacia nuestros padres, luego el amor entre hermanos y hermanas, después el amor conyugal con nuestra pareja, y finalmente el amor paternal hacia nuestros propios hijos e hijas. Cuando aprendemos y experimentamos estos cuatro reinos de amor en nuestro corazón, nos graduamos en esta escuela del amor. A través de este proceso nos preparamos para señorear todas las complejas relaciones de la sociedad en general. Debido a que somos diferentes de los animales, los seres humanos tenemos pocos instintos que nos guían. Aprendemos cómo amar y vivir, básicamente de nuestra familia y cultura. Por esta razón, es esencial establecer verdaderos patrones de comportamiento en nuestras familias para que luego modelen constructivamente la vida humana de las futuras generaciones.
Every father and grandfather - A king Every mother and grandmother - A queen Every child - A prince or princess
1. Peaceful families lead to peaceful nations 2. Bridges cultures 3. Common experience linking all people
” We know of no people who have succeeded for long in dissolving the family or displacing it... Again and again…humans have reaffirmed their dependence on the family as the basic unit of human living.” Magaret Meade, Family, 1965
19 out of 20 new U.S. college textbooks on family life present a pessimistic view of marriage Source: Institute for American Values Council on Families Report, 1997
1. Youth do not believe they can achieve a good marriage 2. Alternative family households growing faster than traditional families Unmarried Homosexual Single Parent Divorced
” Instead of managing family decline or ameliorating some of the worst consequences of a divorce culture, we propose recreating a marriage culture.” Source: Marriage in America: A Report to the Nation, The Institute of American Values, 1994
1. Physical health Longer life Greater resistance to disease 2. Psychological health Greater resilience Less loneliness Greater happiness and sense of well-being
1. Economic strength¥ Married couples have 4 times the wealth of the divorced2. Greater productivity¥ Married adults and their children perform better at work and school
1. Merges two lineages2. Way to attain wholeness
Represents all masculinity Represents all menRepresents all femininityRepresents all women
Ò Love is important...because it transfers all of our life interest from the concern about ourselves to the concern about others; it changes the whole center of our personal life.Ó Vladimir Soloviev, Russian philosopher, The Essence of Love
1. Living for the sake of others2. Unconditional giving¥ Invests and forgets3. Forgives4. Unchanging and unending5. Rooted in principles and higher purpose6. Fruit of good character
1. Living only for the sake of oneself2. Conditional giving¥ Calculating reward3. Holds grudges4. Changeable and short-lived5. Without principle or higher purpose6. Fruit of weak character
1. Basis of universal virtues¥ Service ¥ Forgiveness¥ Sacrifice ¥ Kindness¥ Responsibility ¥ Honesty¥ Respect ¥ Commitment2. Foundation for progress and prosperity
1. Basis of universal vices¥ Exploitation ¥ Vengeance¥ Disrespect ¥ Cruelty¥ Irresponsibility ¥ Dishonesty¥ Infidelity ¥ Arrogance2. Cause of decay and ruin
1. Basis of universal vices¥ Exploitation ¥ Vengeance¥ Disrespect ¥ Cruelty¥ Irresponsibility ¥ Dishonesty¥ Infidelity ¥ Arrogance2. Cause of decay and ruin
1. Full of illusions about love¥ Love takes effort over time¥ Both partners are responsible for a bad marriage¥ Betrayal & deceit are wrong2. Love has consequences in real life
Intenselypleasurable
Bonds two people together
OneÕs sexual organ belongs to oneÕs spouse¥ Fulfills its function through the spouse¥ In the context of true love¥ Violation of this ownership Ð Source of personal and social ruin
S-531. Expresses the joy of conjugal love2. Place where oneness is attained3. Starting point of parenthood4. Allows the fulfillment of the life goal of family
S-54Ò If all men and women admit that their sexual organ belongs to their spouse, they will all bow their heads and become humble when they receive their spouseÕs love. Love comes to us only from our partner.Ó Dr. Sun Myung Moon, ÒIn Search of the Origin of the Universe,Ó 1996
S-56¥ Physical & Instinctual¥ Emotional¥ Social¥ Moral & Ethical Physical & Instinctual
S-57Achieve Highest Satisfaction of LoveFulfill Responsibilities of Love
S-58First responsibility of conjugal loveMature character is the foundation for marriage